Rolf and I had a conversation recently about the value of disappointment in the lives of our kids. As a follow up, Rolf forwarded the following article to me…“How Middle School Failures Lead To Medical School Success” and I think it’s worth sharing. I appreciate the article because I not only have a vested interest in the emotional health of medical professionals but because it also affirms my views on the subject as it applies to life in general. As much as I want to protect my kids from disappointment or heartache, the reality is that if I can help them navigate these experiences rather than shield them from it, they will learn the important life lessons (as quoted from the article) of “resilience and self-worth that lead to grace under pressure” and ” the ability to face adversity with intelligence and equilibrium”. Bottom line: I sooooo want this for my kids!!!
This is a timely subject to ponder as I’ve revisited prayers for balance and emotional stability for the big sibs lately. Rolf and I have tried hard to be “present” for the big sibs and create as normal a lifestyle as possible since Rudy came onto the scene but the reality is that they have had to sacrifice certain things and make things happen for themselves when Rolf and I haven’t been available. Our life is different and I pray the resulting effect is a positive one for all of us. I want my kids to know that life is beautiful and rich and something to be valued but it will also bring with it challenge and I pray the lessons we’re learning from Rudy will empower the big sibs to face the challenges in their lives with intelligence, balance, compassion and grace.
It feels to me that there has been a shift in focus recently…when Rudy was a baby, his care was consuming but it was hands-on and something we did at home…together. In recent months, what has been the most consuming is the management of Rudy’s care between the various agencies with which we partner and I feel like it has eaten up more of my time and emotional energy…time away from and energy not given to the older sibs. I’m not quite sure how to achieve a sense of balance again…food for thought at this stage in the game, I guess, but I think a much needed break from school and therapy during spring break next week will help me regroup a bit.
Hey, speaking of “food”…Rudy sure is making progress with eating food by mouth. With the extra practice at school and with Nurse Dodi, Rudy is happy to try new tastes and textures but also knows what he does and does not like. Mint ice cream remains top on his list as he demonstrated to Olivia last week:
It’s exciting to see him show more and more interest in food! Dr. Kelts called yesterday with the results of Rudy’s ultrasound…as expected, his liver is enlarged (likely due to back pressure related to his heart) but there isn’t anything we can do about it…the test results mainly serve as baseline information for us at this point. It also revealed that Rudy has gall bladder stones. Again, it’s not something we need to address but what the heck?! So, with the ultrasound behind us we have a break from Dr. appts for a couple of weeks which coincides nicely with spring break which coincides nicely with our warmer temps…spring fever is definitely running rampant in our household! 🙂 Happy Spring everyone!